The Reason You Feel Behind Is Because You’re Measuring the Wrong Game

The 21st century has been the century of innovation

And this innovation has brought upon many things and Ideas that the human race has ever seen in their history of existence.

Like Social Media using which you can connect and stay in touch with anyone from any corner of the world ,

Work from home or Remote work a lifestyle where you can work from anywhere and even in many cases in your own way without a constraint of being physically present in a particular place , nowadays it’s a common concept everywhere but even 20 years back this would feel like a fantasy to most in that time period.

And obviously Artificial intelligence or AI , it doesn’t need any explanation

We the modern generation are mainly influenced by this 3 major innovations bundled with countless more which anyway are directly or indirectly connected with those 3.

But the primal desires of a human for power, intimacy , respect , comfort & safety still remains the same within us as it was with our ancestors.

But what really changed within us was the amount or level of this things we really wanted to , thanks to social media

Earlier back in the post world war era to the beginning of 21st century, an average men dreamed of completing his education, getting a good to decent job that can sustain his future and present family , find a compatible wife and buy a house. While a women either followed the similar path or completely handled the household , started her family with her husband and focused on nurturing her children.

In a nutshell both women and men had to work hard to fulfil their primal desires and majority of them were happy about it as they were judged and observed by people living a similar life.

But in our case, it wasn’t the same at all.

Pleasure became cheap and easily accessible

You can now exert power and respect by leveling up in just a video game or owning a meme community.

You can now feel intimacy or sexual satisfaction through watching p*rn.

The government and our parents has ensured our comfort and safety to a point that in many countries people are given unemployment allowance.

You can gain validation and attention now by just looking good, doing cool stuff, showing of your wealth just by posting on social media.

Sounds amazing right

But why is the happiness level all time low now

while the anxiety and depression is all time high with increasing sucde rates.

As i said earlier , social media has completely changed the way we think , the things we want and even how we live life.

Social media makes us feel low about ourselves and makes our wins smaller to the world.

While it was founded to form connections it actually detached us from the most important connection we needed to be with

Reality

And due to this the small wins you’re stacking in everyday doesn’t feels like it

as you see others and their progress

and think that you’re falling behind in life.

I don’t know but you need to hear these

You’re not falling behind and

measuring the wrong game

Your journey is your journey

Only yours

Nothing else should influence it

Every effort you’re putting in is what really matters

It’s the paradox we find ourselves in

where we are standing between a fine line from being a People pleaser or a narcissist

All the general advice around tells you to avoid both , which is true

But they don’t realise that it’s almost inevitable to not face this choice

And I want you to be a type of narcissist

Who is very confident about himself and doesn’t give a fuck about what others think about him

This keeps you immune to all external things that make you weak and,

let you focus on what really matters

So now get off social media,

shut your brain and

get back to work

I will see you in the next one.